So I know I haven’t blogged in like 2 years, but my toddler has been keeping me on my toes. Yes, that’s right, Berkeley is going to be 3 (!) in a little over a month and he is the cutest, funniest, smartest little boy around. I’d love to do an update on him and life in general, but I just want to write down this birth story before I forget it!

Yep, that’s right, I have a new son…

Hawthorn 1 wk ~ elephanteats.com

Hawthorn is actually not very new anymore as he just had his 4 month birthday so I thought it was high time I get this documented. 

My pregnancy this time around was a lot more uneventful than Berkeley’s (thank god). I only went to the ER one time because I was worried about having so many contractions starting so early on in pregnancy. Apparently my body just loves to have Braxton Hicks contractions and it was nothing to worry about. They started pretty much around the second trimester I think. I had them consistently, often only 10-15 min apart. They were uncomfortable but not painful really. 

Hawthorn 1 month ~ elephanteats.com
I was pretty convinced that since Berkeley was 10 days early, that this baby would be too. Nate insisted otherwise but I went with my motherly intuition- I was sure it would be in my 38th week. This was partly due to my enormous size. I swear I was bigger than I had been with Berkeley. 

The pregnancy progressed normally, baby actually dropped this time (unlike with Berk), and the doc told me I was 1 cm dilated at my 38 wk appointment. That was music to my ears.

Around my 37-38th week (honestly the details are already getting foggy!), I started to feel a little crampier. I told Nate numerous times that I thought I was in labor but wasn’t sure. It’s really hard to tell when you’re having contractions ALL the time. We had planned for Nate’s mom to come up and stay with us the week before my due date since I was sure I’d be early- I was due on St. Patrick’s Day, March 17th. There was a small snow storm predicted for Saturday March 11th when Nate’s mom was supposed to drive and she hates driving in the snow. I just had a really bad feeling that the baby was gonna possibly make his appearance that day so I begged for her to come a day earlier, which she did. 

Hawthorn labor 1 ~ Elephanteats.com

She arrived on Friday, and everything went normally. Then on Saturday night while we were all eating dinner I was having those crampy contractions again. I told Nate (again) that I thought I was in labor, which he pretty much ignored at this point. After dinner we sat on the couch to watch tv and around 9pm I was sure these contractions seemed slightly more regular, though still not really more painful than the ones I’d been having all along. I decided to start timing them and sure enough they were about 8 minutes apart I think. 

Hawthorn labor 2 ~ Elephanteats.com

I remember the doc said not to call until I was having them 5 minutes apart for an hour, so I waited. Around 10 they started to seem slightly more painful and I decided if this was indeed labor, I should shower and get some sleep. Normally I’d be in bed at this point but I was waiting to see what was going on. I called the doula to make sure she was around this time, since last pregnancy she took a vacation when I was in labor, and she said to just try to get some sleep if this was the real thing. 

I took a shower and the contractions definitely felt better under the hot water but I was anal about timing them because I was really worried we wouldn’t get to the hospital in time- a completely unfounded fear. After my shower I decided to get into bed and try to get some sleep though the contractions were definitely painful enough at this point that I had to breathe through them. I think I checked in with my doula again a couple times throughout the night and finally around 2am I decided we needed to go. I had been trying to sleep but kept waking up to time the contractions and they seemed to be 5 min apart, regular and very painful. 

Hawthorn labor 3 ~ Elephanteats.com

I called my OBGYN’s after hours line and apparently all of the doctors in my practice were off duty and some other doctor was on call so they patched me to him. He was totally rude and basically was just like “yeah if you’re having contractions you’re in labor and should go to the hospital.” But didn’t even ask me anything about them! Anyway, I called the doula and explained my progress, pausing to have contractions, and she agreed that I sounded like I needed to leave. We had plans to meet at the hospital. 

Nate went upstairs to tell his mom, who was sleeping by now, that we were leaving. This time around I actually had a hospital bag packed (of which I used NONE of the items I brought) and we headed out the back door. The moon was so bright that Nate said something about not needing to turn on the outside light because we could see our way to the car. It was a full moon.

Hawthorn labor 4 ~ Elephanteats.com

I had Nate drive pretty speedily to the hospital which was thankfully only about 10 minutes away. It was now Sunday early morning and actually was also Daylight Savings so although it was felt like 3am, it was actually 4am DST. I hobbled through the front doors and made me way into the elevator and up to the Maternity floor while Nate parked the car around 4:30am according to our parking ticket. I was the only one in the waiting area and got seen pretty quickly. By this point my contractions were very painful and I was moaning very very loudly through them. Nate joined me in the exam room. Every time I had a contraction I had to get on all fours and just do whatever I could to get through them- they hurt SO badly.

Hawthorn labor 5 ~ Elephanteats.com

A doctor came in and checked my progress pretty soon after we arrived, although I don’t think I had any concept of time at this point, and I was already 7 cm dilated! Our doula had arrived by then and only one person was allowed with me since we weren’t in the Labor room yet, so Nate went to the lobby and let the doula come back with me. She tried to help me get through the contractions but honestly I didn’t want anyone touching me. I was so hot and she did help by getting me ice. I threw up a couple times and was just generally feeling horrible. 

Hawthorn labor 6 ~ Elephanteats.com

I think after they checked my progress we had to wait for a room to open up and they wheeled me over there since I was in no shape to walk. I don’t remember much of this because I was in so much pain. At this point the idea of an epidural floated around in my mind but the doula assured me that I had come so far already and really didn’t need it because everything was going so fast and she didnt’ think it would be much longer. I think it was like 5-6 am by this point. 

They hooked me up to the machines in the labor room but I had to stay on all fours and scream every time the contractions came. In addition I kept feeling like I had to push- I also felt like I had to use the bathroom (#2) so it was really hard to tell what was going on down there. I was sure I was going to end up going to the bathroom on the table since you’re really not in control of the pushing that happens when the contractions come (spoiler alert- I did and it was something Nate will never ever let me forget ).

Hawthorn labor 7 ~ Elephanteats.com

I told the doula several times that I felt like i needed to push and they checked me a couple times. The first time they said I wasn’t quite ready yet but the next time they said I was fully dilated. They wanted me to lay down on the bed and open my legs but I literally could not get off of my hands and knees because I was in so much pain and the contractions were happening so quickly. I finally laid on my side with my legs together and couldn’t move, but Nate told me the doctor said something to me about how I’d crush the baby’s skull if I didn’t open my legs. I don’t remember any of this, only how badly I wanted to push and how much pain I was in. 

I have no idea who was in the room at this point. My eyes were closed and I was fully focused on getting through the contractions and not pushing until they said. It’s SO much different than when you’ve had an epidural. My body HAD to push, like I had no choice in the matter. 

Hawthorn Going Home 1 ~ Elephanteats.com

Finally, they held my legs back since I couldn’t even focus on lifting them up, and told me to push on the next contraction. I noticed that a different doctor was there than the rude one I spoke to on the phone. I’m not sure if he was a resident or something but he was so so nice. I think it took all of 2-3 pushes and little (or actually BIG) Hawthorn Marlow made his debut at 7:11am on March 12th at a whopping 8 lb 9 oz! I could not believe he was over a pound bigger than Berkeley…and that I had him without any pain meds. 

I couldn’t even open my eyes to look at him when they first handed him to me because I was panting from the exertion of birthing. My mom said, based on pics she saw, that I looked like I had just run a marathon…which I basically had. 

They did their initial exams and everything looked pretty normal, except the doctor said that his testicle sack (not sure of the term) was very filled with fluid and they needed to do an emergency ultrasound to make sure his testicles were actually inside it and receiving blood flow. This condition is called Hydrocele. The doc said it was one of the most severe cases he’d ever seen.

Hawthorn Going Home 2 ~ Elephanteats.com

They got the ultrasound and confirmed everything inside looked ok and told me I needed to make a urologist appointment for the baby. Apparently the fluid should dissipate and dissappear by age 1 but they were a bit concerned due to the amount of swelling he had. Of course Nate and I were a bit freaked out, but the pediatrician reassured us when he stopped by later in the morning. At 4 months old the swelling has already gone down quite a bit but is still there. I have to bring him back to the urologist at 6 months. 

The last bit of drama is that it was now Sunday and a MAJOR blizzard was due to arrive on Tuesday. Berkeley was home without mama for the first time EVER (aside from a brief overnight babymoon we took to NYC) for more than one day. He was starting to get a little upset and I knew that if I couldn’t get home until after the blizzard (2 days later) that it would be traumatic for him (and mama!). This was compounded by the fact that the Maternity Ward wasn’t allowing any children under the age of 12 to visit, due to a flu that was going around. So i couldn’t even see my little boy. We facetimed with him once or twice but honestly I think it made everything worse.

Berkeley isn't sure what to think...

Berkeley isn’t sure what to think…

I begged the nurses to let me go the next day (Monday) and they told me that if everything looked ok with both me and baby that it shouldn’t be a problem. They did everything they could to rush us out of there and we ended up getting home Monday late afternoon. There was indeed a giant blizzard Tuesday, so we made it out just in the nick of time.

Hawthorn's First Month 2 ~ Elephanteats.com

Hawthorn was a great baby and nursed like a champ for the first month. But then around 1 month old he started screaming through his feedings. Like sometimes I couldn’t even get him to eat. After cutting dairy and soy out of my diet without it making any difference, we finally decided that I should stop breastfeeding. I didn’t want my baby to starve so I agreed though it made me really sad. It took him a week or so but we finally got him to start drinking a special formula (Elecare) and after several weeks he started to eat without any crying. I wasn’t too happy about having to switch to bottles but I didn’t have much of a choice in the matter. I do have some breastmilk that I pumped and stored in the freezer but I’m not sure if he’ll be able to drink it before it expires. 

Hawthorn's First Month 1 ~ Elephanteats.com

In addition, he also has reflux so he’s on medication. He often spits up what seems like an entire bottle. He also doesn’t nap very well since he always has a burp/spit up that’s making him uncomfortable, so he wakes after 30-40 min a lot of the time. I’m praying that he outgrows this quickly. Berkeley was colicky so i think it’s still way better than that but it sure hasn’t been an easy road. 

Hawthorn's First Month 3 ~ Elephanteats.com

As of Monday I’m officially back in the office. I got 14 wks off and then worked from home for 2 weeks which was really nice. I tried to spend as much time with Berkeley as I could so he didn’t feel neglected. We definitely had some nice days together :) Nate also took a week of paternity leave and took Berkeley on special trips. I think that he’s adjusting pretty well. Honestly, he really just doesn’t have much interest in the baby.

I will try to update again in the near future!

Hawthorn's First Month 4 ~ Elephanteats.com

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The Ultimate Clueless Pregnant Lady's Baby Registry Guide ~ www.ElephantEats.com

When I was pregnant and had to figure out what I needed to buy for the baby, it was the hardest thing E.V.E.R. Do you know how many baby things exist? And do you know how much energy a pregnant lady has to research baby things? The answer is 1.68 billion, and zero. 

I had no idea where to start. I asked friends. I also searched all over the internet for blogs talking about favorite baby items and some of them were really helpful…but none were really thorough. So I decided to talk a little about what products have made my life easier since having Berkeley in the hopes that it will help some other anxious pregnant lady down the line who finds her way to my blog during her searches ;) Some of this stuff you wouldn’t put on a registry per se (hello, granny panties!), but they’re necessities for the days and weeks following your baby’s birth.

**Warning, this list is LONG and comprehensive…and perfect for women like myself who like to be told exactly what they need**

(I’m sure I still forgot some things, so let me know if there’s something you think I should add! Also, be on the lookout for an “older baby necessities” list in the coming months, since I was also clueless about what to get post-newborn stage)

 * an asterix indicates necessities for Reflux babies who spit up a ton

 

Diapering Registry List

Diapering:

Waterproof changing pad liners*- These things are awesome when baby has a blowout or pees while you’re changing him/her. It keeps the changing pad cover clean (unless it’s a REALLY big blowout or a pee you don’t catch in time) and it’s much easier to toss in the laundry than a whole changing pad cover. Luckily the changing pad itself that I chose is wipeable too! I also used these underneath the sheet in my bassinet since my baby spit up a lot.

Ubbi diaper pail– I did a lot of research on diaper pails and I like this one for a few reasons. 1) It comes in lots of colors, particularly ivory, which matched my decor. 2) It’s made of steel and so doesn’t absorb smells like plastic does. 3) It takes standard kitchen size trash bags so you don’t have to fork over extra money for specialty ones (i like to use Febreeze kitchen bags for extra smell-hiding).

Babyganics unscented wipes  – For the first couple weeks of life I used the recommended paper pads they give you at the hospital and warm water (it’s best for newborns sensitive skin). I knew that wasn’t realistic to carry on forever but know that since I have sensitive skin, there was a very good chance my baby would too. I didn’t want anything super scented or harsh. I think I started using these after the 2nd or 3rd week- My baby nurse recommended them and I love them. I do wish they came in a refillable container, but it’s not so bad. I order the giant 400 ct boxes that come with four 100-ct packs. They’re often buy one get one 50% off at babiesrus so I stock up when I can. You go through lots of these!

Baby aquaphor– My baby nurse recommended this to prevent diaper rashes, and Berkeley hasn’t gotten one yet (knock on wood). I used to use it after every diaper change. Now I only do it during the first and last change of the day. Get the tub…trust me you’ll go through it quickly!

Pampers swaddlers– I started using these because they’re what the hospital uses, but I found I really like them. They fit well and have a little stripe in front that changes color when the diaper is wet. They wick moisture very well so you don’t have to change them after every little pee pee. 

-Naturepedic Organic Contoured Changing Pad plus cover (note that this link includes the cover but other links usually don’t include it)-  I got this changing pad because I was planning to use a dresser as my changing table and this comes with straps to attach it to the back of any furniture so it doesn’t fall off. If there’s a giant blowout that dirties the boppy liner (above) plus the changing pad cover, the pad itself is totally wipeable, which I loved.

Small item storage-Diaper caddy of some sort- I used a basket I had. You need a place to store diapers, wipes, cream, lotions, etc that you can easily grab.

 

-Babyganics hand sanitizer- You definitely need hand sanitizer for use after changing diapers. You’re not going to have time to run to the bathroom to wash them in the sink, especially if you have no one there helping you. Also, it’s good to keep a bottle of this around for when visitors come so you can very easily ask them to sanitize before touching your child (or you can keep all hands away from your child until he’s 4 months old, like i did, haha).
 
 
Sleeping Registry Needs

Sleeping:

Kolcraft® Cuddle'n Care® 2-in-1 Bassinet... : TargetBassinet (preferably one that rocks)- I was lucky enough to borrow this from my cousin, but there are lots out there. I found out later that they make something called a cosleeper which is essentially a bassinet with three sides that attaches to the side of your bed- that’s probably good if you’re tight on space. I do wish this bassinet had been a bit easier to wash. If you have a baby that spits up a lot, it’s pretty important that you can wash it without taking the whole thing apart. 

Playard with storage- I used this as a bassinet when Berkeley got too big for the one we had, since I kept him in our room for almost 4 months. I chose this because it has a lot of storage for baby things- most others don’t. I will say that the dream snuggler part was a pain to install and I never used it since I had a bassinet, but otherwise I probably would have. L.C. (our cat) ended up using it as her personal bed. Also get some playard sheets!

Aden + Anais Muslin swaddle blankets– I bought a lot of these and my baby nurse was awesome at using them to swaddle. I got the hang of it, but Berkeley was such a Houdini that if you didn’t get it on JUST right, he escaped and in my sleep deprived state, getting it on tightly sometimes took more patience than I had. That being said, they’re great to use as shawls when holding or burping him if you want to protect yourself and visitors from drool and spitup (and protect baby from the germs on visitor’s clothes- yes, I’m a germaphobe!). 

Swaddleme swaddles– i hated these when Berkeley was a newborn because I couldn’t get them tight enough…but as he got a little bigger, they were life savers. Buy at least 3 since they’ll get peed through and spit up on, and have the larger size ones for when they outgrow the small size. I ended up often using them with one or both legs out (although with both legs out they sometimes rode up while he slept).

Sleeping Baby Zipadee-ZipZipadeezip– Once your baby starts rolling over, you can’t swaddle anymore so this is a way to start transitioning to no swaddle (if your baby isn’t colicky, I recommend avoiding the swaddle to start so you don’t have to deal with getting them used to NOT wearing one). I wanted this to instantly make Berkeley sleep through the night, like the rave reviews all claim, but it didn’t do that exactly. However, when Berkeley started rolling over in his swaddle I had no choice but to find some sort of transition since he was a wild man when he was “free.” This suit definitely kept his arm flailing to a minimum and kept him from scratching his face too. It allowed him to comfortably sleep on his stomach (since he’d flip over) without me worrying that he’d get stuck in a position where he couldn’t breathe and couldn’t move himself.

Crib sheets– Got these and can’t complain. They’re very soft and stretchy. They seem a little small for the mattress but are fine if you stretch them. I got a three pack but couldn’t find the link. You’ll definitely want at least 3 sheets though.

Waterproof Crib Mattress Pad*- Important if you have a heavy wetter or a spitter upper! I have these ones and even when there’s a big spitup that soaks through the sheets, the pad is never wet!

 

Crib mattress– Choosing a mattreess took F.O.R.E.V.E.R for me to do. There are so many types and choices. Did i want organic or not organic? Hard or super hard? I finally settled on this one and it’s been great. Berkeley seems to like it.

Crib– I got this crib on major sale because the color I wanted was being discontinued. I love the look. It’s super sturdy and easy to put together. It can be converted into a toddler bed too. It doesn’t really matter what brand crib you get, as I’m sure they’re all safe. Also, depending on what you plan on doing you may not need this immediately. As I mentioned before, Berkeley slept in a bassinet next to our bed for his first 4 months. 

 

NoJo Crushed Fleece Sheet Saver - 2 pK : TargetSheet Saver*- These are really only necessary if you have a spitter upper and don’t feel like changing the sheets multiple times per day. If you put your baby down with his head on these, the spitup will be containted to the fabric and you can just swap it out if it gets really wet. These are only useful in a crib, so when Berkeley was in his bassinet/playard and was swaddled and didn’t move at all, I used to just put a padded cloth diaper/burp cloth under his head. Also, now that Berkeley is older he loves touching things and I often see him rubbing his hand or face on this while falling asleep because it’s super soft. 

BreathableBaby® Mesh Crib Liner - buybuyBaby.com –Breathable mesh bumper– I bought this when I was tired of Berkeley’s pacifier falling out of his mouth and inevitable bouncing thru the crib slats and onto the floor. You’re not supposed to have padded bumpers in cribs anymore since it’s a suffocation risk, but these claim they’re breathable. By the time we put him in the actual crib, he could turn his head anyway. Berkeley moves a lot in his sleep and one night his face was smushed up against these and I found out because I heard him gasping in the monitor- although i really don’t think he was bothered by it. Needless to say I freaked out and moved him, but he probably would have been fine until he moved on his own. I think most babies aren’t as active at night though.

Levana Lila baby monitor – Some people like having a baby monitor on wifi but I figured I’d never really have a need to watch my baby sleep when I wasn’t home. This monitor has night vision and two-way sound. I ended up buying an extra camera because he didn’t always sleep in the same room, but it has the ability to add even more cameras which would be useful with multiple children. My only complaint is that the clip on the back breaks easily if you drop it (which you’re bound to do at least once). I rigged up a solution since the company was kind of annoying when I called to get a new clip. It doesn’t affect the monitor other than it can’t stand up on its own without it.

-You might also want blackout curtains for the windows. If you have a bad sleeper like we do, these are a godsend. We didn’t start using them til he was in his own room at about 4 months, though.

 
 
Clothing Registry

Clothing:

Carter’s “bodysuits” plus pants– You really don’t need much in the way of clothing for a newborn- all they do is sleep! Berkeley is almost 8 months old and he still pretty much lives in onesies (long sleeve for winter) and soft pants. I know it’s boring and not as cute as all those adorable outfits you see, but he mainly spends his time in the house (and napping) and I want him to be comfortable. Also, when swaddling, it’s best not to have bulky clothes, even if baby jeans are the cutest things E.V.E.R. I like Carters brand because they always have sales and I know exactly what size he fits in at any time (all brands vary a ton). The pants often come in 2-packs which is a bonus.

Carter’s baby socks– Berkeley got SO many baby socks as gifts, but the newborn ones never stay on and they outgrow them very quickly. I found that these Carters ones come in tons of adorable colors, are always on sale, and most importantly they stay on. They say they’re for 3-12 months, but Berkeley fit in them not too soon after he was a newborn.

Zip up footie pjs and sleeping gowns- I LOVE the pjs that zip up because they’re SO MUCH EASIER during middle of the night diaper changes than fumbling with 10,000 teeny snaps. The Carter’s ones are good, but if you can find them, some brands (Target Circo Sleeper) make the zip start at the bottom which is SO much smarter (i was going to invent that but then found it already existed!) so you dont have to unzip completely to change a diaper.  For a while I also loved the sleep gowns but then got annoyed when they’d ride up while I burped him. Also get some footie pjs that snap , because they’re cute too! And they seem to fit for longer and are better for holding gigantic overnight wet diapers. 

Undershirts (if winter baby)- My baby nurse recommended these side snap shirts and I’ve been using them under pajamas and clothes during the day since the weather got cold. I wish they came in sizes larger than 6 month! :( 

-A baby hat or two- It’s very hard to find ones that stay on, but we liked the ones that came with our Circo brand pjs.

 

-A good zip-up jacket or sweatshirt (with hood for cold weather)- Babies need layers and we pretty much just used a really heavy fleece-lined sweater all winter long. We would put the hood up in addition to putting a light hat  on him since one of them was bound to move around.

Dreft detergent– This is sensitive enough for a baby’s skin but we use it for all our laundry too. Our machine has a detergent reservoir so you can’t use a different kind for each load, and it’s been totally fine for our laundry. Make sure to get HE if you have a high efficiency washer!

Dreft stain remover*- SUPER important if you don’t want newborn poop staining all of his and your cute clothes (along with anything else it comes in contact with). Did you know that newborn poop is bright yellow?! (at least breastfed poop). I rinse the clothes in the sink quickly, spray on the stain remover and scrub the fabric together a bit, let it sit, rinse it off, and repeat if necessary. Then I just leave it til I do laundry. It’s also been great at removing stains from his vitamin now that he’s old enough to take one- also very yellow!

 

 

Feeding Registry

 Feeding:

Dr browns bottles*- Although my breastfeeding instructor recommended Breastflow brand bottles, they seemed like they made Berkeley suck in too much air. Since he was already a gassy, colicky baby, we switched to these Dr. Browns bottles that are designed to eliminate excess air from being taken in. My only complaint with these is that the markings on the side of the bottle aren’t uniform and so aren’t very accurate. I got two boxes of bottles and the markings on one set were not the same on the other set- like i put 4 oz in one according to the markings and when i poured in the other set it showed more than 4 oz. Prob not a huge deal but it bothered me. You’ll need to get the larger size nipples as your baby gets older. If you don’t start bottle feeding til your baby is older, you dont’ really need the “newborn set” and can just get the 8oz bottle set. *If you get these bottles make sure you get a pack of the travel lids too.

Dr browns Bottle Warmer– This really isn’t necessary but it’s helpful. For a while I just heated a cup of water in the microwave and then stuck the bottle in it until it was warm. This is more convenient and warms well and quickly but it’s really hard to clean and gets moldy easily. That being said, I don’t think other bottle warmers warm as quickly as this one. Also, when it did get moldy I called customer service and they sent me a new one. After getting the new one I made sure to descale it with a vinegar/water solution every couple of weeks. 

Bottle brushes– They usually come with the bottle set. I actually only like the nipple brush that came with another bottle set we bought but you can’t buy it separately. For the actual bottles, though, I like the Dr. Brown’s brush.

1/10th of a gram scale – Berkeley’s specialty formula (Elecare) is best when measured by weight, which is also a lot easier than counting out scoops. It has to be measured to a tenth of a gram which is more precise than a kitchen scale. I found this reasonable and small scale and it’s been great.

Gerber cloth diapers/burp clothes* – These come in a 10-pack and are GREAT for babies who spit up a lot since you go thru so many burp cloths. Currently I have a rotation of 20. Make sure you get the 6-ply ones because otherwise they soak straight thru. I also used these to put under Berkeley if he had a blowout while I was feeding him and I didn’t want to interrupt the feeding. I also used these under my baby’s head when he was sleeping (when he was still swaddled and not moving a lot) because he used to spit up SO much while sleeping and it was easy to just swap out the cloth instead of changing the whole sheet.

Aden and Anais Burpy Bib*- If you have a messy baby (i.e. a reflux baby), you MUST get these bibs. They cover more surface area than any other bib.

 

Baby bottle and dish soap– the brand doesn’t really matter but this one is nice.

 

Dr. Brown’s microwave sanitizer– I read that baby bottles really only need to be sanitized before the first time you use them, but I still santize them nightly. Some people just put them in the top rack of the dishwasher, but I don’t run the dishwasher nightly, so this is just easeir for us. This is a great saniziter because it’s BIG.The only other way to sanitize a large amount of items is the old fashioned way- in a boiling pot of water.

Medela sanitizing bags– I used these for sanitizing the pumping supplies before I bought the Dr. Brown’s microwave sanitizer. They’re good to travel with (assuming you’ll have microwave access) and are good for just sanitizing a few items. 

Boon Drying rack– This rack is great because it’s really big and can hold everything! Definitely get the extra twig piece for holding smaller things.

 

Formula mixing pitcher– When I first started giving Berkeley bottles, I mixed them one-by-one…rookie mistake. My nanny told me I should just mix everything at once, which I totally didn’t think of. You could totally just use a giant jug with a lid and shake it, but I like that this has an agitator that mixes the powder very well so there are no clumps.

-Oh, and a big comfy chair! You probably already have one but we bought a glider for the nursery. This is a great item to have people go in on together since it’s $$$.

 

 

Pumping Registrty

Pumping:


Medela Pump-in-Style Pump- I got this pump for free through my insurance but I’ve heard it’s one of the best. When getting extra parts for it (it comes with one set), make sure to get the connector pieces that are separate from the breast shields. They sometimes come as one piece and are SO ANNOYING that way.

Nuk Breastmilk Storage Bags– There are lots of brands of breastmilk storage bags but I liked these and they never leaked. 

 

Nuk Milk Bag Rack– This is great for storing your milk in the freezer compactly. After they freeze you can stack them vertically on their own.

 

Pumping bra– I got this Simple Wishes brand bra and I like that it’s highly adjustable so you don’t have to guess which size fits you. A pumping bra is a necessity if you pump! It leaves your hands free to post adorable pics of your baby to facebook from your phone ;)

-Pump bag if going back to work- I got the Medela Messenger bag which is a perfect size, but I dont’ receommend it because it doesn’t have anything to keep it closed. I would have gotten the Medela backpack but you can only buy it WITH the pump, which is super annoying since I got the pump from my insurance company. They really need to sell it separately like they do with the other bags!

 

 

Bathtime Registry

Bathtime:

Washcloths– doesn’t really matter what brand but I like the Aden + Anais ones because they’re soft. Get a lot of them. I usually use 2 per bath (one for butt and one for everything else) starting from when Berkeley just got sponge baths. 

Hooded Towels – Get a bunch of hooded towels since babies lose a lot of heat thru their heads! Some of them come with washcloths.

 

Fisher-Price 4-in-1 Sling ‘n Seat Tub -The bathtub was another item that I couldn’t decide on. This one has been great- it comes with an infant sling and a seat. To start we used the sling and kept the seat in- it kept him from sliding down too far. Now we’re using just the sling, and I imagine at some point soon we’ll be using the seat. We put it on our bathroom counter and fill it with bowlfuls of water from the sink. It has a drain in the bottom so you can empty it over the sink. As an added bonus it has a little toy that Berkeley has LOVED since about 6 months old.

Baby shampoo– It really doesn’t matter what you get, but we like Aveeno baby shampoo.

 

Water thermometer – I don’t know about you but I have NO idea what temperature water should be. What’s comfortable to me is probably too hot for a baby. Before I got this I would annoy Nate at EVERY bath by asking him 1000 times if the water temperature seemed ok to him…so I think he would probably recommend this more than me ;) It’s idiot proof- You drop it in the water and it turns green if the water is in the safe temperature range and red if it’s too hot. Perfect! I actually really wanted this one but it won’t be useful til we bathe in the tub

Soft Shampoo Rinser Cup- I didn’t use this til Berkeley got a little bigger but now it’s great for rinsing him off instead of just using a washcloth. It’s soft so clutzes like me won’t injure their babies’ heads by bonking them by mistake.

Baby Qtips– I don’t know if all babies are like this, but Berkeley has really waxy ears (it’s gross). I actually think he just takes after Nate’s side of the family because apparently they have ear wax problems. Anyway, you can’t use a regular qtip in a babies ear because you don’t want to go in too far. Baby qtips are huge so you can’t actually get them into the ear canal- they’re just for cleaning outside of that when the wax makes its way out…and trust me, it will.
 

 

Play Registry

Play:

Activity Gym– Since babies are supposed to sleep on their backs now to prevent SIDS, tummy time is very important during their awake time to promote neck strength and coordination. Any activity mat will do but this went with our Woodland themed nursery (which I STILL haven’t shown you guys yet…oops!).

Boppy Newborn Lounger*- This is a great spot to put your baby down when your arms need a rest. It keeps baby propped up (good for reflux!) so we often put it underneath the activity gym for him to lay on. We also used to put it on our laps when we played with him to boost him up a little so he could look at us.. When Berkeley was going through his colicky stage, I used to rock him to sleep in my arms and then ever-so-gently place him on this in the same position he was in my arms- if I were to put him flat in the crib he’d start crying. Then I would aim the camera at it so I could watch him since it’s not meant for sleeping!

Sophie!– Yes, this is the quintessential registry item, but for good reason. I don’t know what is so delicious about that darn giraffe, but Berkeley LOVES chewing on her. 

 

A rattle or two– Really any rattle is fine, but as Berkeley got older, he decided he loved to chew on this fox’s snout :)

 

Baby Einstein Take Along Tunes– This was given to Berkeley in an awesome package of hand selected gifts by my friend, Shannon (she’s so thoughtful!). Berkeley LOVES this thing. Like major love. It really holds his attention, especially when he used to get super fussy. We’ve played it so much that the battery is dying, so we’ll have to replace it soon!

Baby bouncer/rocker– People swear by the Rock n’ Play, especially reflux babies that need to be propped up. We got the Mamaroo but unfortunatley Berkeley didn’t like being in it til he was about 3.5-4 months old. At that point we used it as a seat for him to just chill out in. Actually we called it his poop seat because he seemed to relax in it so much that we always put him there when he seemed to be trying to poop, haha. The Mamaroo plays nature sounds but also has a spot to plug in an ipod, so now we basicaly use it as a speaker system for his room. He never was really a fan of the motions it does. There’s also a Rockaroo that I think he would have liked more because it mimics being rocked in your arms. Honestly, I wish we had just bought one of the Bjorn basic lightweight bouncer seats so I could have easily moved it from room to room when I wanted to get dressed or brush my teeth or whatever. Anyway, it’s great to have a bouncer or rocker of some kind so give your arms a rest. Some people let their babies sleep in them since they’re super comfortable but we never got into that habit. 

 

 

Misc. Baby Needs Registry

Miscellaneous Baby Needs:

Nuk Orthodontic Pacifier– I said I wouldn’t use pacifiers til at least one month (and told my baby nurse) but found out she used them a little sooner. After she left I totally get why- they’re magic! Nuk ones are best for baby’s developing teeth and babies seem to like the fit too. They have different sizes so make sure you get the newborn size. 

Pacifier Clip– These are crucial to use in the car seat, stroller or baby carrier so that the pacifier doesn’t fall out and get lost!

 

Baby Carrier– I started using these to calm my colicky baby when I wanted to free my hands up. As a bonus, they’re great when your baby is older too. It’s best to find one that has the option of facing out for when baby gets older. I have the original Ergo but it doesn’t offer the option to have the baby face out (once their neck can support it). If i had to do it again I would get the Ergo 360 because it has the option to face out. I borrowed my friend’s Baby Bjorn which I love because it’s lightweight and easy to take with you, but it does hurt your shoulders after a while. The ergo has a waist strap to ease shoulder strain. 

-Stroller: Baby Jogger City Select– When researching strollers, there was SO much to choose from. I asked other moms and ended up going with the BabyJogger City Select because you can make the seat face front or back and you can add another seat down the line since I have a feeling we’ll have two kids in strollers at some point. My only complaint with this is that they say the seat it comes with isn’t appropriate for babies under 6 months. I’m pretty sure they say this so that you’ll buy the bassinet attachment. While the bassinet would have been nice (since it reclines completely flat and can be removed when you get inside and brought to another room), we made do just fine with the regular seat. It practically reclines flat and I just used a rolled up towel under Berkeley’s tush to get the fit right as he grew. You can also buy an attachment so that a car seat fits on this stroller but I opted not to use it. This stroller isn’t good for travelling because it’s large but it’s great for anyplace else because of the all-terrain wheels! We ended up also getting the City Mini for airplane travel.

Snap N Go stroller– My friend recommended this to me because it’s lightweight and you can lift and open it with one hand.  Pretty much any car seat fits in it and those car seats are so freaking heavy that you wont want to have to carry them far if you don’t have to. It’s been a godsend and is perfect for going anwhere that doesn’t have rugged terrain (mall, supermarket, good sidewalks). We keep it in the trunk of our car. I’m a little worried the wheels will wear down if i use it outside too much, but so far so good. 

 Medical items to have on hand: We got a kit like this one that comes with digital thermometer, baby nail clipper, snot sucker (people swear by this odd contraption which I bought but can’t figure out how to use it well), plus a baby brush, and some other stuff. Also make sure you have Infant tylenol, Little Tummy’s Gas Drops (especially for colicky babies), saline drops for stuffy noses. 

Infant car seat– After more googling, asking friends and spending WAY too much time making going back and forth between the different ones, I settled on the Keyfit Chicco 30 which seems to be a very popular selection. I’ve been very happy with it. Berkeley had a blowout it in and I’m happy to report that the infant insert is completely machine washable (and we even put it on low in the dryer even though it wasn’t recommended).

Car mirror– To see your baby in the back when you’re driving. P.S. The safest place for a baby seat is in the rear middle seat, even if it doesn’t have LATCH connectors.

 

J.J.Cole Car Seat Cover– I was totally clueless about how I’d keep my baby warm in the winter. Bulky coats aren’t recommended for use in car seats because they make the seats less safe (the straps aren’t tight against the baby because there’s puffy fabric in between them and the baby). Instead, I got this car seat cover and it’s been great for the cold weather. 

J.J. Cole Infant Urban Bundle Me– I also got the same thing for the stroller. I did a lot of research and this is compatible with the CityJogger City Select stroller. You have to unzip the sun shade piece to get it on but it fits perfectly!

Car Seat Canopy– This is a great way to keep people from touching your baby, and also to give him/her a dark place to nap while you’re out and about! You’ll probably get a mailer with a coupon for a free one of these where you just have to pay shipping, so make sure to be on the lookout!

 

 

Items for Mom Registry

Items for Mommy:

Comfy granny panties– These are exactly what you want when you leave the hospital and run out of those weird mesh panties they give you. I have a big booty (that only got bigger with pregnancy) and these fit me perfectly. The waistband is loose and high.

Nursing Tanktop – I wore these all day and night during my breastfeeding days. They’re super convenient, comfortable, and appropriate for being seen in public with. Get a ton of them. I would wear them for 3 or more days straight, alternating between a daytime one and a nightime one.

-Cardigans and/or comfy button down shirts- Great for staying warm in but still keeping your boobs accessible. I’m sure you already own a bunch of these but my mom went out and got me a bunch of cheap stuff at Target that was perfect.

Lanolin– I put this on after every nursing and pumping session to keep my nipples from getting dried out and raw.

 

-Heating pad- You probably have one of these lying around in your house, but if you’re prone to getting clogged milk ducts like I was, this is a necessity! You need to heat and massage before feedings if you have any hope of getting rid of them.

Nursing Pads – I like this brand, although I’m sure others are fine.

 

-Nursing Pillows- A lot of people swear by the Boppy breastfeeding pillow but I just could not figure out how to use it comfortably when nursing. Instead i just used a plain old pillow that I shoved between myself and the arm of my glider chair. Make sure you have a pillow protector and pillow case on the pillow for when baby inevitably has a leaky blowout while eating. Once I figured out a more comfortable position, I was able to nurse without a pillow at all.

-Food/water cup/phone charger with extra long cord to keep by your nursing chair- This is extra important if you’re nursing. You get starving in the middle of the night nursing sessions and need these all within arm’s reach. These also come in handy later when you have a baby that will only nap 30 minutes in the crib and then requires you to hold him the rest of the time (ahem, Berkeley!).

– OH, and don’t forget a diaper bag!

Berkeley 5 month ~ ElephantEats.com

Well, this has officially become a baby blog because there’s really no sign of me cooking for a while. We’ve been doing HelloFresh meals (they send you the ingredients and recipes) and it’s been awesome, but now that Berkeley decided to start sleeping horribly and I’m exhaused by dinnertime, i think we’ll put it on hold for a while and stick to Trader Joe’s frozen dinners.

Ok, here goes: 5 months- whew this is a long one! Don’t read this if you’re not interested in every aspect of his life right now (Mom, I know you hate these so just look at the pics and skip it!)

Berkeley on his playmat ~ ElephantEats.com

His new playmat!

Berkeley is definitely figuring things out this month! He intentionally grabs things and is very good at it. He’ll even pass things from hand to hand…and of course put them into his mouth. He’s become a pro at tummy time and easily rolls right onto his hands and now gets up on his elbows. He has started following LC with his eyes and if you hold him close enough, he’ll try to reach out for her (she’s not too happy about it). He has JUST started to find his feet (at the end of month 5) and now leans forward to sit and grab them. You still have to hold him though because he can’t stay sitting on his own without falling over. 

We installed blackout shades on his windows and I think they’ve helped lengthen his naps! Although most naps tend to be closer to 40-45 min now instead of 30, he will occassionally grace us with an hour or 1.5 hr nap. After he starts fussing in his crib, we still rock him back to sleep and hold him while he sleeps an additional hour or more. It’s getting harder to rock him back to sleep in our arms, though, so sometimes that will be the whole nap. 

Berkeley 5 months 2 ~ ElephantEats.com

His “awake” time is now around 1.5 hrs before his morning nap and 2-2.5 hrs before his other two naps. This gives us enough time to do things like take a walk…finally! We decided to increase it since he wasn’t napping well so we figured maybe he just needed to get tired out a little more. It’s been working well although he’ll still boycott his afternoon (or occasionally his evening) nap and then he’s up WAY too long (like 4-5 hrs) and gets so cranky by the time it’s his next nap or bedtime. 

For sleep he was fighting the swaddle so much (plus it wasn’t safe anymore because he was rolling over in it) so I ordered the Zipadeezip suit in the hopes that it would transition him out of the swaddle. I can’t say it has magically transformed his sleep like it claims to do, but he’s definitely more comfortable than having his arms strapped to his sides. The caveat is that it takes him a little longer to settle down to sleep after the freedom dance party he puts on in the crib. He sure does like to move those arms. I ended up buying a sheet at Target and using it as the fabric to sew him a second Zipadeezip so we could put him in it when we needed to wash the real one. I’m not the best seamstress and it took me longer than I’d like to admit. I didn’t think to order two suits and the first took so long to arrive (and wasn’t cheap!) so I didn’t feel like ordering another. 

At the bakery ~ ElephantEats.com

Usually at night when we put Berkeley in his crib in his suit (we call it his bat suit because he looks like a bat) on his back, he’ll flip over to his stomach pretty quickly and if he is tired enough by that point he’ll go right to sleep. Usually because of his reflux, he tries to get a burp out and fusses for a while and will proceed to spit up all over the crib. Fun times. Before I realized it was the reflux making him fussy (i thought he was just practicing tummy time) I ended up flipping him onto his back a lot until he tired out. Or I’d rock him until he got drowsy instead of putting him down fully awake like I was  doing. Once I realized he just needed to burp, I now spend way too long with him over my shoulder, patting and rubbing til he burps or spits up. This sometimes goes on for 30 min and he might spit up 2-3 times. It’s exhausting for me and he’s always out of breath and panting by the end, not to mention rubbing his eyes in exhaustion. I feel so bad for him and need to figure out how to get his reflux under control.

Taking a walk ~ ElephantEats.com

He had been fighting his middle of the night breastfeeding session for a while now. He’d often pull his head off my breast and i couldn’t get him to relatch. I couldn’t figure out if it’s cuz he’s used to the bottle and couldn’t get as much out as fast out of my breast? Anyway, it was super frustrating and made eating take way longer (which totally sucks when you want to go back to bed). A couple times I just gave up and put him back to bed. Well about a week into 5 months, he did it again but he really didn’t eat for more than 5 minutes before he started crying when I tried to force him to. I decided that maybe he just wasn’t hungry and didn’t need to eat in the middle of the night anymore, so i put him back to bed. I called the pediatrician to see if he was eating enough during the day to skip feeding in the middle of the night.  She told me that 5 month olds eat between 26-32 oz so he’s right in the normal range and that he definitely doesn’t need to eat during the night. So that was that- I was officially done breastfeeding (not by choice). 

Taking a walk 2 ~ ElephantEats.com

Tough guy

Once I eliminated the middle of the night feeding, we had a couple rough nights where he kept waking up and i kept putting the pacifier back in his mouth (like every hour or less). It was so exhausting that I bought some books on sleep training and decided to give it a shot.

First night of sleeping thru the night, he woke up crying and i coudln’t figure out what was wrong…I knew his diapers wouldn’t last all night so around 1:30am changed him which woke him up so much that i just put him in bed with me and we both got no sleep. Next night i bought Pampers Baby Dry (12 hr diapers) but they seemed too small (even tho they were the same size as his daytime Pampers Swaddlers diapers) but I used anyway. I tried to let him cry it out (never more than like 10 min before i checked on him and put his paci in). Finally I realized he had peed thru his outfit and I felt so bad he had been crying!  I changed him and put him in bed with me at 4:30 am.

Blowing Raspberries ~ ElephantEats.com

Blowing “raspberries!”

The next day I went out and bought a size up in Pampers Baby Dry (size 3). I put him in them and he slept really well aside from moving to the corner of his crib and getting stuck so i had to move him. He woke several times and put himself right back to sleep. Finally around 1:50am he started crying. I decided to toughen up and let him cry. He cried about 5 min, passed out for 5, woke back up and cried for 5. I went in and gave him a paci. He passed out and woke about 10 min later crying again. I let him cry 10 min then went in…I checked his sleep suit but it wasn’t wet so i was like ok, he doesn’t need to be changed, i have to be tough. I put his paci in and he fell asleep again. This went on for like an hour and finally when he was wailing for like 10 min and kept waking up after passing out, i knew something was wrong. I decided maybe he just didn’t like having a wet diaper (strange cuz he has wet diapers during his naps), so i figured i’d change him. Well I took off his sleep suit and wouldn’t you know he had peed thru his pajamas! I felt SO BAD!!! i’m the worst mom in the world. Here I was letting him cry for an hour and he was cold and wet :( I still haven’t forgiven myself.

In the meantime, I wrote pampers a nasty email since i wasted my money on two packs of diapers i can’t use. They sent me a couple coupons to make up for it. I then ordered Huggies Overnights (in a size larger than his daytime diapers) that got great reviews and they keep him dry. Needless to say when I finally discovered he was wet and changed him at 3am, he immediately went back to sleep and slept without a peep until 6am!!! I unfortunately think his natural wakeup time is 6am but i can’t deal with that now so I always go get him and get him sleep til 7am in bed with me, at which time he gets up to eat.  I wouldn’t mind waking up at 6 with him and feeding him then, but then the whole schedule i have for him gets screwed up and i don’t know how to change it.

Bouncy chair ~ ElephantEats.com

Anyway, after fooling us into thinking that he could practically sleep through the night, he then started waking up a ton…and I realized that maybe he was waking up because he was still a little hungry when I eliminated the middle of the night feeding, so I increased his bottles.

After that he started waking up every 30 min to hour ALL night. I think it’s from reflux so we’ve upped his dose and it will hopefully work. I still get up to feed him sometime around 1 am though. Unfortunately he drinks a bottle faster than breastfeeding which is worse for his reflux so I have to let him sleep upright on me while i rock him for like 30 min before putting him back to bed. I am EXHAUSTED. I literally haven’t gotten more than 1 hr of consecutive sleep and maybe 3 hrs total sleep for 3 weeks now. I’m crossing my fingers this reflux medication increase changes things :(. I have an appointment with the GI doc in a couple weeks.

Stats: 14 lb 12.5 oz (25th %), 25.75 in (75th%), size 2 diapers 

Likes:

Daddy giving him a goofy smile, going crazy in his bouncy chair!, when I say “mmmmm” to him, standing (assisted)- which he’s been doing for months now, rolling over (all directions), chewing on everything, his colored ring toys, Sophie, pulling himself up to sitting when you hold his hands, being lifted in the air, trying to blow “raspberries,” giggling!, reaching out and touching your face and grabbing your nose/lips/Nate’s beard, facing forward in the Baby Bjorn carrier for walks

Dislikes:

sitting (he refuses to bend his knees!), napping, being on his back for too long, his gross new reflux medicine, taking too long to get his bottle ready after you put his bib on

Things he’s unsure of:

L.C.(the feeling is mutual)

Schedule:

After eliminating his middle of the night feeding, he wanted more to eat during the day so we increased his bottles to 7.75 ounces and then to 8 oz and he gets 4 of them. Then he started waking up during the night and he seemed hungry so now he also gets 3.5 oz around 1-3am. So total he eats between 32-36 oz per day (he’ll sometimes leave an ounce or so in a bottle or not seem to be hungry at night).

He ends up coming into bed with me way too early (so i can actually try to get some sleep) and i can’t get him to sleep til 7 anymore, so he typically gets up around 6:15-6:30. He gets a bottle and goes down for his nap about 1.5 hrs after waking. He gets the next bottles 4 hrs apart and will nap about 2-2.5 hrs after waking from his prior nap. He tends to sleep less during his early afternoon nap (around 12 or 1ish) and takes a long late afternoon nap (around 4ish). We usually have to wake him from his last nap around 6:15pm so he can have his last bottle, change, have a book (if he’s not too tired) and go straight to bed. We’ve been starting this bottle earlier so he more time to digest before bed because of his reflux.

BerkeleyCollage 5 months ~ ElephantEats.com

Berkeley 4 month ~ ElephantEats.com

I know I already posted some info about Berkeley at 4 months, but I decided that I want to do these monthly stats for myself to remember down the line…I already forget what he was like a month ago!

Berkeley is actually 5 months right now (so things have changed but I’ll do another update next month) but I have to do these things a month behind because otherwise I can’t report what he’s actually doing THAT month. Also, I still have zero free time.

At 4 months old, Berkeley is a really happy baby and is smiling all the time. The only times he cries are when something is wrong- he’s gassy usually- or he’s tired. When he gets overtired, he starts crying and fighting sleep but if you rock him and shove a paci in his mouth he’ll pass out. 

Berkely 4 months ~ ElephantEats.com

Yes, I’m wearing owl pjs

He started rolling over in his swaddle (no arms to impede his turning) and then a few days later started rolling over without it (4.5 months). He rolled left first and then figured out how to roll the other way a few days later. He used to take time to get up on his hands after rolling but now he’s a champ and rolls right onto them! He can’t roll from tummy to back yet. He’s starting to pull up his knees a bit too and might be crawling soon.

He still wakes up once during the night to eat and tends to fuss some other times during the night. When I get tired of getting up a million times to go put a pacifier in his mouth, I’ll take him to bed with me so we can both get some decent sleep. 

Berkeley 4 months 2 ~ ElephantEats.com

My little man!

Stats: 13 lb 12 oz (25th %), 25 3/4 in (75th%), size 2 diapers

Likes:

Getting his diaper changed (he has always liked this and will smile and giggle), getting lots of kisses from mom, smiles from dad, rolling over (and spitting up, without fail), chewing on his fist and anything else he can find, SMILING!, sleeping on his tummy. We’re still swaddling (with one leg out) but he doesn’t seem comfortable with his arms swaddled while on his tummy and is always fighting to get them out. We’ve tried one or both arms out but he flails too much. Waiting on his Zipadeezip suit, fingers crossed it will work!

Berkeley 4 months 3~ ElephantEats.com

Dislikes:

Napping for longer than 30 min in his crib, too much tummy time, not much else- he’s a happy baby! We have to rock him to sleep for naps but bedtime he’ll go to sleep on his own.

Berkeley 4 months 4~ ElephantEats.com

Schedule:

Gets up around 7 (usually he’s in my bed by this point because he’s either woken up at 6 in his crib and i’m trying to get him to sleep longer, or because he’s been fussing all night ) and eats a 6.5ish oz bottle of his special formula. He eats every 4 hrs (7ish, 11ish, 3ish, 6-6:30ish). He goes down for first nap around 1.5 hrs after waking, sleeps only 30-45 min at a time in his crib and then rest of the nap in our arms. His other naps are after about 1 hr 45 min of awake time where we’ll feed him and play with him. Bedtime routine starts between 6-6:30 depending on how well he napped, or earlier if it’s bath day- eat, change, book, bed by 7:30 at the latest. He takes about 15 min to fall asleep on his own usually.

Berkeley 4 months 5~ ElephantEats.com

I think he has started his 4 month sleep regressionand is boycotting some naps completely but is still always smiling…except the day he BARELY napped and then he was in full meltdown mode by bedtime. Why oh why would anyone boycott a nap?! What I wouldn’t give to be held and rocked to sleep…

5 month update coming soon!

Berkeley 4 months 6~ ElephantEats.com 

 

Sorry in advance for this rather wordy post. I’m writing this mainly so I have something to look back on and remember how it all went down. Feel free to skip this post if you’re not interested!…but seriously, you should at least scroll through the pictures ;)

Berkeley 1 week ~ ElephantEats.com

I apologize for my lengthy time off from the blog. To say I’ve been overwhelmed with my little bundle of joy would be an understatement, as he’s now almost 5 weeks old (!). I’ll write another post soon on how life with a newborn has been and talk about my favorite baby products, but in the meantime I’ll share my adorable son’s birth story…mainly for my own records but also for those that are interested :) I always love reading these on other blogs. 

Berkeley 1 month ~ ElephantEats.com

On Monday August 25th, I went in for my 38 week appointment at my OB/GYN. I was hoping that this time the doc would say I had “dropped” since I hadn’t yet at my 37 week. The doc examined me and said that my cervix was still really high and the baby hadn’t dropped yet. She also expressed a small concern that perhaps his head was coming down at a weird angle or was too big for my pelvis, since it was unusual for first-time moms to not have dropped by 2-3 weeks before the baby was due.

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I went home assuming this baby would be coming late and that I would need a c-section. I did a lot of research on when babies drop and found that there were plenty of first-time moms that didn’t drop until they went into labor. I stopped worrying and just tried to get through my days. I was feeling huge and taking naps at around 2pm daily for 1-2 hrs.

Tuesday and Wednesday went by normally. Then Thursday I woke up at around midnight with MAJOR back pain. It was similar to the pain I had when I went to hospital several weeks before, but it felt even worse. I tried getting up to go to the bathroom and could barely make it back to bed. I laid in bed moaning and wimpering for about an hour, hoping Nate would wake up but at the same time not wanting to wake him up. He had a follow-up doc appointment in the morning (for his kidney stones) that I was supposed to bring him to before work, and I was wondering how I’d get there feeling the way I was. 

Finally at around 1:30am, I woke Nate up telling him I was in extreme pain but didn’t think it was labor. I wasn’t having any contractions other than the occassional Braxton-Hicks that I had been having my whole third trimester. He got up with me and we went to the hospital’s PET unit were they admitted me fairly quickly. After a lot of waiting (during which time I was moaning loudly in pain), a doc finally came in to see me. She did an internal check and said I was 1 cm dilated but that my cervix was still really high. They said the back pain was probably from the way the baby was positioned and that I was in pre-labor but that it could still be a week or more til the baby came. 

This was obviously taken post-epidural

This was obviously taken post-epidural

At this point, it was approaching 5am and Nate had to get to his doc appointment at 7:30 and then go off to work, so I told him he might as well leave me there and go home. I checked in with my aunt who lives locally, to make sure she’d be able to come pick me up later in the day when they discharged me. Poor Nate went to his appointment and then had to go to work on about 2 hours of sleep!

In the meantime, I was in so much pain I kept throwing up. They asked me if I wanted to go home or if I wanted to be admitted for a “Morphine rest,” where they’d basically give me pain meds and allow me to sleep. I was in so much pain that I chose that option. I was able to rest semi-comfortably and drift in and out of sleep til the morphine wore off around noon. They checked me again and said I was still 1cm dilated so I definitely wasn’t in active labor, but that my heart rate was too low for them to give me more morphine. They gave me a mega dose of tylenol thru an IV and let me sleep a little longer.

Finally the pain seemed to have subsided around 4-5pm and they said they would discharge me. They told me to come back if my water broke, I started bleeding, or I had regular contractions.  I called my aunt to come get me, and they finally gave me some juice, water and crackers since I had not eaten and drank anything the whole day. My aunt picked me up around 6 and after about 30 seconds in the car she had to pull over so I could throw up again…unfortunately everything I had just eaten. We got home and I tried to drink some gatorade to hydrate and then to take a nap but really had no appetite. 

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I got about 10 min of rest and then around 6:45 pm I noticed I was having regular, semi-painful contractions. I started timing them and they were ranging from 5-8 min apart. At this point, Nate had gotten home but my aunt was still with me. Nate was essentially a zombie since he’d gotten so little sleep, so I told him to nap since if I was actually in labor I would need him awake later. I called the doctor’s answering service and the doctor on call told me that I shouldn’t go to the hospital until the contractions were 4 minutes apart for 2 hours.

I then called my Doula since she was supposed to be with me at home during the beginning stages of labor and then would go to the hospital with me. After leaving her two voicemails, she finally called me back and told me that she was on vacation down in Baltimore since I wasn’t due for 10 more days. She called her backup doula, who I’d never met, and she called me within 30 min. She was very sweet and after having to pause to moan through the pain of my contractions, she said she could hear that I was definitely in labor. At this point it was around 9pm and my contractions still varied from 3 min to about 6 min. She told me to check back in at 10pm and we’d decide if she should head over to my house (she lived about 30 min away).

I called her back at 10 and by the sound my contractions she decided she should head over immediately. Oh yeah, and did I mention we hadn’t gotten around to packing my hospital bag yet since we were going to do it that weekend?! Nate and my aunt threw some stuff together in a bag at my direction. About 30 min later the doula still wasn’t at my house and she called to say there was major traffic on the highway. I had another contraction while on the phone with her and she said that it sounded like I should go to the hospital immediately and she would meet me there instead of at my house. My aunt and I decided to let Nate keep sleeping since we assumed it would be a while til the baby arrived, so she drove me to the hospital.

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I hobbled through the hospital entrance while my aunt parked and they immediately got me a wheelchair and brought me up to the PET unit. They admitted me again and within a couple minutes of getting there, the backup doula, Miriam, arrived as well. Coincidentally, the doctor from my visit that morning was back on shift and saw me again. She checked me out and said I was 2-3 cm dilated. At this point I was in MAJOR pain. Every contraction had me screaming and moaning- I had no idea I would be so loud! Miriam massaged my back through them. We decided it would be best if I tried to take a walk down the hall. We walked for about 10-15 min with me pausing to moan…ok, more like scream…and have Miriam massage my back with each contraction. I couldn’t take it any longer and got back in bed. Miriam had me get on all fours on the bed every time a contraction came.

A couple hours later the doc came in to check me and said I was at 3 cm. She asked me about my birthing plan and if I had thought I’d get an epidural. I told her that I really wanted to try for a natural delivery. She told me that if I didn’t get an epidural, they’d have to send me home because I wasn’t progressing enough to be admitted. The doula was furious (I was in NO SHAPE to get back in a car and go home), so she begged the doc to give me another hour to progress. The doc said that everytime I got on my hands and knees, the machine couldn’t measure my contraction, so she told Miriam to time them so she’d know how far apart they were.

Finally an hour passed, and then I stalled them a little more by going to the bathroom, and finally the doc came back to check me. Miriam told her my contractions were every 3 min now, and when the doc checked, I was at 4 cm. She agreed to admit me! THANK GOD.

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At this point we thought it would be a good idea to call Nate to come to the hospital. I think it was around 3 am. He had gotten at least a little bit of sleep. They wheeled me over to the labor and delivery room since I couldn’t even walk at this point. I remember getting a contraction right when they wanted me to get off one bed and onto the other and I couldn’t do it because I had to get through the contraction. From my memory, the nurses were annoyed. Immediately after that contraction, I started throwing up again- remember again that I hadn’t eaten or drank at all in over 24 hours now. At this point I decided I wanted an epidural. It wasn’t originally something I wanted to do, mainly because I’m allergic to all kinds of things and it scared me that I’d have some horrible reaction. Miriam told me that most women don’t start labor with the amount of pain I seemed to be having, and that I should get an epidural if I wanted one. She said she had one with her first child as well. 

The anesthesiologist came in right about the same time that Nate arrived. Nate heard me going through one of my contractions and apparently felt so bad for me. They made everyone leave the room while the anesthesiologist gave me the epidural. He told me it would kick in in about 20 min. Everyone came back in the room and I laid back in bed. For the next 20ish minutes I felt my contractions but they weren’t as bad as before. Finally, I could barely feel them…or my legs. WHAT a relief! Getting that epidural was the best decision I’ve ever made, hands down. 

I was finally able to lay back and enjoy what was about to happen. Nate, Miriam and I chatted on and off for several hours. At this point it was around 5am and Miriam told me that she had been talking with the other doula, Chana, because she had to leave to meet with a patient at 9am (she’s also a nurse). Chana was going to drive up from Baltimore and switch places with her. Miriam was so nice, and by this point we had really bonded with her. She was very sad she was going to miss the actual birth.

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The doctor checked me a couple times and I got to around 7 cm. It was at that point that I stalled a bit. She decided to give me pitocin to make my contractions a little more productive since I wasn’t making much progress on my own. She said I shouldn’t feel it since I was on the epidural.

Chana arrived and Miriam left. I was definitely feeling the contractions more, since they were stronger, even with the epidural. The epidural had a little button that you could press to admisiter more medicine to yourself (it wouldn’t let you go past a certain point though). Chana encouraged me to press the button to relieve the discomfort since that was, afterall, why I had gotten the epidural. 

The doc came back and checked me around 11:30am Friday morning and said I was fully dilated and ready to push. It was at this point that my OB/GYN came in. I chatted with her for a bit and told her I’d really like her to wait to cut the umbilical cord until it stopped pulsing, because I had read it was much better for the baby (they get all kinds of nutrients). She said that would be fine.

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Around 11:55am I started pushing. Pushing was definitely an odd sensation since I really couldn’t feel anything due to the epidural. The nurses, doula and doctor all said I was doing really great, which was encouraging. They said they could see his head. I didn’t think I’d want to see what was going on, but when it actually came time for it, I asked them for a mirror so I could see my progress. It was really cool to see his head crowning and made me want to get him out of there so badly!

Finally I pushed enough that his head came out. The doc told me to stop pushing and that the cord was wrapped around his neck. She told me she’d have to cut it asap and made sure it was ok with me since I had requested before that they wait to do it. Obviously I let her since I was worried the baby couldn’t breathe. She cut the cord and had me push a little more and less than an hour after I started pushing, at 12:47 pm, out he came! He was 7 lbs 5 oz and 19 3/4 inches long :)

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They put him on my chest but his face was blue and he wasn’t crying so they whisked him over to the warming table where a bunch of nurses swarmed around him. He still hadn’t cried, and Nate and I started freaking out but the doc assured us that this was common. The nurses sucked a ton of fluid out of his mouth and nose and finally, we heard the tiniest of cries. We were SO relieved. They kept him over there for some time to get him pink and check him out, at which point he peed all over everyone :)

After he was doing well, they brought him over to me and I got to put him on my skin. He was the cutest baby ever! Nate and I couldn’t stop staring at him…

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I honestly can’t believe it’s been a whole month since I gave birth to Berkeley. We’ve had a baby nurse this whole time who just finally left on Thursday. I still don’t really feel like a mom yet. I think it’s because the only time I really get to spend with him is when I’m breastfeeding and then he goes right back to sleep- well, at least he used to. Several days ago he entered a fussy stage and we’re not sure if it’s colic, reflux or something else, but that’s a story for another day…